It is over now and what a haphazard ride it was!!!!
(my chat room experience of four and one half years)
I have taken notes and gathered much insight about human
behavior when people become anonymous behind a screen name.
I want to begin by going over the few good things about chat.
My web site was one of the good things to come out of this experience as I had to have an ongoing plus with all of the negatives.
I will say I have met some nice people who seemed dedicated to helping others and tried to quell the storms that arose...but they were the minority.
Many nice people dropped out of Health Holistic chat
as they couldn't take the stress.
They just gave up.
Many left very hurt and disillusioned.
I personally...am totally exhausted.
I have always had a very strong mind..spirit and body
or I wouldn't have attempted this project.
A chat room is relatively new on the horizon of our life's experiences and there is little written about it.
Only time will tell of the consequences ...good or bad....when people use much of their free time typing into a little box
while limiting their "human experience".
I am sure some use it as an outlet to unwind but soon it can become an obsession.
Someone once said they heard a young women in a restaurant upon finishing her lunch say to the woman she was with...
"Let's not visit here...
Let's go home and IM each other".
I truly hope that it wasn't true.
Cats and dogs are even jealous of the time their masters spend typing on that mysterious keyboard.
Some have said their pets jump on it trying to get some attention. When their masters watched TV they at least were able to curl up on their laps and get stroked.
I am sure many children...husbands...wives....relatives and friends are neglected when their loved ones becomes obsessed with chats.
I truly don't think any children
should be allowed in chat rooms.
I have long witnessed what people in their twenties thru seventies can do and say in a chat.. and believe me...
It is NOT a place for children!!!
The problem with chats is sorely complicated by the ability of one person to be able to change his or her name as many times as they wish. If they decide to "get" someone...they can IM..mail or come in to chat under different names and harrass the person until the person thinks the whole world is against them.
Many have crumbled from this cruel technique.
Early on I recognized this behavior and became very adept at noticing typing speeds...expressions...font..color..style....spelling errors...etc; so I could usually spot the "transvestites"
(as I called them)
These are very sick and disturbed people who are coming into chats ...Iming and mailing letters to people for the sole purpose of harrassing....
(they are also known as stalkers)
Those who have no ill intent have no reason to change their names.
Many people sit in chat and gossip about people
(who are also in chat)
with the use of IMS..
to me this is despicable.
It caused me to lock my IMS....I couldn't bear to deal with it.
Plotting and planning evil to deliberately hurt and maim a persons psyche or character is unforgivable.
(MIND YOU...these are supposed to be "mature" adults!)
Many come into chat with such a need for attention and sympathy that they invent one "tragic" event after another...they especially love to do this when the chat has settled down to a good exchange of ideas and information.
If you look at what they are saying logically...how many having a true life emergency of any kind would even think of running to their keyboard?
Some...mostly grown males ...come in chat to try to impress and shock everyone with four letter words and continuous references to thier private parts!
How childish is that?
These men are very unmanly and low...they are probably getting "off" on any attention or laughs at their sick references. It always surprised me when women would respond to them by laughing.
Where is their respect for themselves?
Perhaps the ones finding it amusing are men posing as women...or insecure women who think any attention from a male is desirable...ackkkkk......who knows?
Some people have two phone lines...have two sets of names and have software that records what they say and changes it to text.
These are the people who seem to type faster than the speed of light!
Watch out for them.
They are up to no good if they are spending that much time and money on messing with people's minds!!!
Many of the people in chat are of the type that you would
NEVER
allow into your home. Yet...there they are..hurling thier ideas and insults at you one after another.
I have heard over and over..."Just use your ignore button!!!"
Well guyz...that just doesn't work.
First of all...others will tell you what they are saying and you can't properly defend yourself. If everyone who didn't like the obscene remarks would use ignore...then ...yes it would work.
In a perfect world there would be no illness either.
The ignore button gives your enemies the chance to say things about you and by not responding ...others think you are afraid or that the comments have some truth to them.
The ignore button is all but useless in a room full of chat regulars.
I have experienced so many insults and plots against me it is truly unbelievable.
Jealousy over my web site was a big part of it even tho I spent many hours teaching the chatters about Aol...computers...and holistic medicine.
I consistently would go to the net to find links that they needed.
The more I tried to be helpful...the worse it became.
I guess I was ruining their fun by trying to stay with the subject for which the room was intended.
Many people can't think of anything to say so they just hurl insults.
Some of the most disgusting aspects of chat is the obsession with "bathroom" bodily functions and intimate revelations that belong in the bedroom.
Once the topic turned to that it would be the end of any respectable exchange for the rest of the evening. Anyone who came into the room looking for help when that was going on would leave...thinking it was "just another porn room" .
I could not believe the number of people who gave out their personal information...names...addresses and phone numbers to their "friends" on the net!!
What were they thinking?
If they did find someone who they could trust..(?)...how could they be sure that person wouldn't innocently give it to some other chatter who assured them it was ok to pass it along?
You can not judge a person's character by text on a screen or by a few phone calls.
Parents...please note!!
If you have a child who is spending time in chat rooms...please at least carefully monitor what they are typing and to whom. Even if it just seems like a child their age it could be a monster who has practiced his skills to perfection. Sooner or later this monster will make his move to meet your child.
(online verbal damage must also be considered)
Children...no matter how well you have reared them think they know what they can handle and that it could even be an exciting or romantic experience.
Please don't let these innocents become prey for the stalking internet vultures!
I remember seeing a test done on children in parks where the Mothers were shocked when their little ones easily went with a stranger to look for his little lost puppy.
These were Mothers who had repeatedly warned their children never to talk to strangers.
The evil ones know how to get to your children!
His lie about a lost puppy had erased all of the warnings.
Those who practice this type of behavior know all the tricks...all the words...all the techniques.
Internet prowlers are everywhere.
After witnessing four and a half long years of evil ...lies...plots...etc;
I know what I am talking about.
The internet has a lot of good things to offer...an immediate source of necessary information..speed and convenience of mailing letters...etc;
but the chat room is not one of them.
An adult with a strong mind can have trouble coping.
So please protect your children.
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My web site will remain and I will continue
to add stories...poems...photos and holistic information to it....
but I will never again put my spirit under the stress
of dealing with people with such sick minds .
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My "chat" days are over.
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When chat was on an interesting health subject and we had dedicated sincere people exchanging ideas....it was truly fun and interesting...
but those days were rare!
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A final note to the "GOOD" people in holistic chat.
You know who you are.
It has been quite an experience and I learned a lot.
We had some good exchanges and laughs.
If you like you can see what I have added to my site from time to time.
My domain name is easy to remember:
www.kesti16.com
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May your lives be filled
with all that is good and wonderful.
May God bless you Always.
Hugs...Kes
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